Love Those Dating Relationships

Passion, deep hearted sighs, and drumbeat heart thumping when you see your beloved?  It’s daisy picking time!  He loves me, he loves me not.  Remember the love poem we sang as kids?  We all have picked the petals off daisies when we were teenagers trying to determine whether the latest man of our dreams loves us or not.  I don’t care whether you are 13, 23, 33, 53 or 73 years old, you still will experience the same unsure feelings when you are dating someone new. 


The only sure thing is that you will go through a step by step process of first adoring the new person in your life.  All you want to do is dream about him, talk about him incessantly to your closest friends and sit by the phone anxiously awaiting his call.  Your heart thumps wildly when you see him and blood easily rushes to your face.  During the next stage when you actually have gone out a few times, you begin to notice his human-ness.  Some things aren’t 100% perfect, but that’s okay too.  You have adjusted what you want out of the relationship and are still perfectly okay because he fits 85% of your criteria. 


During the third phase, you literally are at a cross roads.  You’ve been together for some time.  You are seeing cracks through the mask he puts on as his public face.  Can you live with the real person?  Your mask is also beginning to crack as he sees you in action when you do things together.  In this stage you are more willing to trust and show a deeper inner you that is a truer picture of who you are.  You have risked taking off your public face.  However, if you do not find he is honorable and trustworthy with some of your fragile feelings, your public mask soon returns.  This is the phase where you decide to stay with him or to leave.


During the fourth phase, your relationship deepens as your love deepens.  You have settled into a more lasting love that possibly can stand the test of time.  Deeper love feelings in relationships are based on four “must-have” qualities: trust, honorable great communication skills, and reliablility.

Love Calculator Questions  On a scale of 1-10 where 5 = average, 10 = the best

1.      how trustworthy is your sweetheart?

2.       How honorable is your sweetheart?

3.      How well do the two of you communicate about matters important to both of you?

4.      How reliable is he?  How reliable are you? 

Add up your love calculator.  If your score is 20 or less then you have a lot of work to do.  If your score is 28 or more, you are well on your way to a lasting relationship!

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Love Yourself, Then Love Family

With spiritual counseling with women and particularly mothers, I tell them to love themselves first.  The psychology behind this is the secret.  This focuses woman energy on the family in a more pleasant way.  If the woman takes time to pamper herself daily, then she has refilled her emotional well.  She then feels better about herself and has more energy to give to her husband or partner as well as to her kids.



For example my daughter-in-law has three young children.  As a stay-at home mother for the past decade, she has totally devoted her life to her family.  However she has done little for herself.  In the spring she was telling me how exhausted she was.  I asked her what she was doing for herself and heard the usual “there is no time for me” story.  I asked her the same reflection questions below.  She choose to start pampering herself by getting up an hour earlier every day and going for a walk.  This is  me time” for her when she could relax, get in touch with herself, meditate while walking, and so on.  She was emotionally exhausted from being a mother and wife.  Four months after doing this for herself, she is re-energized, has lost several pounds and looks forward to life.  That sounds to me like a win-win situation.  She wins, her relationship wins, and her children win.  Win-win situations are so delicious!




Reflection Questions

1.      What 4 things would I choose for pampering myself?           

2.       Where can I find time today to do at least one of those 4 things?

3.      Do I love myself enough for “pamper me time?”

4.      On a scale of 1-10 how well do I love myself?  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.


To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”.

(Oscar Wilde)



I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website or if your desire information on how horoscopes relate to love, visit

Manifest Your Ideal Man Vision Board

Are you in a dating relationship that you want to move to the next step?  We women tend to want a loving relationship.  Are you looking for the ideal partner? Manifest him or her! 95% of women want that love relationship to be with a man whom they can have a family with.  95% of men want the same thing.  Today approximately 50% of new relationships end up in marriage.  Even so, we women want to live with a harmonious relationship whether we marry him or live with him.  Why do you think men want anything different from you?  They too want a loving woman in their lives.

Create your manifesting or vision board!  First be clear on the characteristics of the man or woman you want to bring into your life on a permanent basis.  If you clearly understand the basic “must have” characteristics that you simply need in your partner, then you are well on your way to manifesting your ideal man or woman. 


Years ago after being through disaster after chaotic disaster in relationships, I did this exercise and came up with my priority list.  On the list I wrote down the qualities I needed for my partner.  Sometimes, it is easier to write down what you don’t want on left side of your paper, then write down the opposite word on the right side.  Once I clearly understood my “must have these characteristics” list, then I was able to create my manifesting wishes for my ideal partner.   He walked in my door a few days later.  Coincidence?  I don’t think so.  I had to know what I wanted in a man before the universe could bring him to me!  Okay, time to raise your consciousness!

Reflection Questions

1.What qualities does my ideal mate have? List 4 absolute must have characteristics such as honesty, loving

2.  List 4 qualities it would be nice to have.

3.  List 4 qualities that would be gravy if s/he had them, but you can live without them.

4.  Prioritize your list.  Now write down the feelings you will have when you have a partner with these qualities.


I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website or if your desire information on how horoscopes relate to love, visit

Abundance in Your Loving Relationships

What is your love calculator?  In order to have abundance or wealth in your relationships, you truly do have to examine your personal love calculator.  Only you can control that love calculator because you control your emotional reaction to life.  If you want to improve the quality of your love relationships, you have to do the work!  So let’s work at increasing your self awareness.  By your being a happier person, the whole world rejoices.  Global Consciousness is also raised up a notch. By your having more peace in your heart, there will be more peace in this world. 


Our emotions are governed by largely by our birth Moon sign in our personal astrology charts.  However, the Moon changes signs every couple of days.  Many of us change emotions to match and reflect that Moon sign change.  If you are interested in pursuing this further then visit my astrology blog at


In his book, Emotional IQ, Goleman notes there are 5 main areas that indicate we will choose to have an emotional successful life.    I have those 5 areas outlined for you in the reflection questions.

Reflection Questions

  1. know your emotions.  When you are feeling something can you put a name to it?  Increase your self-awareness.
  2. manage your emotions.  How do you manage your behavior when you are sad?  When you are angry? When you are full of joy and happiness?
  3. motivate yourself.  How well you master managing your emotions is up to you.  On a scale of 1-10, where do you feel you are at this moment in time? 5 = average.
  4. recognize emotions in others.  This is called people skills.  Where are you at on your scale of 1 – 10 in your people skills?   How well do you read other peoples’ emotions?
  5. handling relationships.  If you are at least at a 5 in knowing how someone else feels, then you are well on your way to handling your relationships effectively.  When you are in negative emotion, pause and ask yourself where you are on your love and relationship calculator!


I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to change that!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website for more in-depth information.     

Love and Relationships

Love is the most powerful energy of the universe.    We love our partners, love our children and love our homes. Love is the secret emotion that connects us in our main relationships with people.  Love also binds us to our pets such as our dogs and cats.  Love ties us to the things that are the most important in our lives. 


Hearts are a universal symbol.  Hearts are used around the world by all cultures and all people.  Yes we love hearts and we love being in love.  What an amazing and awesome feeling to be in love!


So how can you increase your Love IQ?  Be honest with yourself and answer the reflection questions.  You too can have your ideal love relationship whether you are single or married, whether you are dating or in a long term relationship.


Love is the most amazing journey into yourself.  Love my journey.  This is your journey into loving yourself so you can have quality relationships with others!  Raise your consciousness and raise your Love IQ

1.      Who do I share or want to share a love relationship with today?

2.      Who was the first person, as a mature person, I ever loved?

3.      One a scale of 1-10 how well do I love myself today?  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.

4.      Where can I find some “me pampering” time today? 

Music…gives wings to the mind,

a soul to the universe,

flight to the imagination,

a charm to sadness,

a life to everything.


If you found this helpful, then visit my website for additional information on love and relationships