ADHD, Behavior Problems & Plants

Kids and adults with ADHD or other jittery focus problems can be helped by plants.  As a specialist with severe behaviorial kids, I searched for any ways I could find to help the kids manage their own “out-of-control” behaviors.  You see their brain wiring differs from the regular population.  The kids know it, but often adults are not aware of this. 

 

In the last school I worked in before I retired, we had a small greenhouse. I taught my staff to help the kids to take control of their behaviors through various behavior modification techniques. I found that when a child was agitated for whatever reason, if a staff member took that child to the green house, they would soon calm down.  We had mats on the floor and it seemed that if the child could sit on the mat, or lay on the mat, the child would calm down much more quickly. In essence they were being closer to the earth.

 

We then could discuss where that specific problem started and how the child could monitor their own body reaction to what sometimes was an emotional trigger.  Sometimes, it was because they had eaten too much sugar or junk food.  Other times it was due to something someone said to them on the play ground.  In other words, we were trying to have the child understand their triggers, understand their body signals and begin to take control of their own reactions.  We gave the kids life skills for managing their own behavior.

 

The bottom line is, when a person is agitated, there is something in plants that helps to calm them down.  Can I explain what that something is?  Is there research to support it?  Good questions.  I’m not sure there is conclusive research.  However, I have found with extreme behavioral teens, when they are in extreme anger mode, if they have the opportunity to “hug a tree” for 5 minutes, they calm down immensely.  Ten years later, some of my teens are now adults and tell me they still use this technique to help them.  I also have talked to Greenhouse owners who tell me of how mothers will come in with kids who are crying or screaming even.  Within a very few minutes, the kids calm down. The mothers will calm down and all is a much better quality of life in their world.

 

Similarly, taking a walk outside in a garden or going to a campground which has lots of trees and natural life calms people down.  Why do you enjoy taking holidays to either the mountains, the ocean or a park?  These can be Your sacred Safe Places on earth. The positive energy of green growing things cannot be denied.  Sometimes I believe the angels and fairies must live among the plants!  Read the Secret Life of Plants, or one of the books about Scotland’s Findhorn Community and you will be amazed!

 

Affirmations and Intentions: 

I intend to take a walk in nature to renew and refresh my spirit.

 

 

Dance with the wee folk in the Moonlight!

Wee!  Slide down a rainbow on your magic carpet!

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.

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Real Earth Day

Today is the Real Earth Day with the Sun and Moon in Taurus, the “Mother-Earth” of the zodiac.  I am passionate about doing what I can to preserve the healthiness of our planet in my small piece of this sacred space.  We who live here have an obligation to demand that our governments, our industry and people who live in our town and home do what they can to make our sacred place a healthy one.  The wise ones say that what decisions we make today affect 7 generations. 

 

 

At the very least plan on planting a tree this spring!  Trees are the lungs of our planet.

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

1.      What decisions are you going to make for your Sacred Place, Mother Earth? 

2.     What are four NEW things you can make as a habit to clean up your little piece of this earth?

3.     Who can you influence to keep our sacred planet clean and healthy for your children and grandchildren?

4.     What can you do to respect your water consumption?

 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to walk lightly on Planet Earth.  I intend to influence my family and my friends in making a light carbon footprint.  I intend to plant 24 trees. I intend to make respecting the earth part of my daily spiritual journey

 

 

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Dance in the spring moonlight!

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com

Water For Life Angel

 

Water angel

Water angel

Be a water angel and pass this on to your friends!  Today is International World Water Day.  This should be as important as Earth Day around our global village.  We are all related by the water we drink, the air we breathe and the food that we eat.  We require all three to survive and thrive in Gaia, Your Sacred Safe Place. 

http://www.worldwaterday.org/

 

 

 

water drop

water drop

 

Reflection Questions! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  1. What action are you going to take to respect water around you?
  2. Have you told every glass of water, ever river, every lake and every ocean that you are grateful for it’s being here?
  3. Are you thankful for every glass of water you use?
  4. What are you going to do?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to be thankful and grateful for the water in my personal world. 

 

 

Numerologists, check out the numbers in this!

Gaia's Water

Gaia's Water

 

 

 

 

“Man is a complex being;

he makes the deserts bloom and lakes die.”

(Gil Stern)

 

Take a chance on Life’s Dance

Yes I can and Yes we can with Love Energy!

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

 If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

Fear & Eagle Egg Parenting

Eagles soar

Eagles soar

Soar with the eagles or scratch around with the chickens on the ground.  It’s scary flying into the unknown and new beginnings.  It could be a new job, a new house, a new career or a new location.  It’s always scary to step into the unknown.  That is a normal human reaction to anything new.  While we may be thrilled and exhilarated, underneath is the drumbeat of fear.  We all feel this fundamental fear.    We are stepping out of the Sacred Safe Place we have created. 

 

 

 

New Beginning

New Beginning

My friend is starting out on a new business venture.  The seeds or egg of this idea was hatched some months ago.  She has to leave all she has known all her life behind and travel thousands of miles to begin a totally new life for her.  She is terrified.  Hooray!  That is perfectly normal!  Here is the note that I wrote to her.  

 

 

  

 

Leaders Food

Leaders Food

We are so proud of how far you have chosen to come to date.  I feel like we are eagle parents hatching an egg with you!  We are fussing more and worrying more about you than we have done over any of our other “kids”.  But then you see, that is love.  We love you enough to want to see you emerge from that egg, strengthen you wings and fly on your own when you are ready.  Until that time, like great bird parents, you will be under our eagle eye.  

 

 

 

Come to the edge.

We can’t, we are afraid.

Come to the edge.

We can’t, we will fall.

And they came to the edge.

And he pushed them.

And they flew.

(Guillaume Apollinaire)

 

Sometimes as family, friends, extended family or partners we truly have to understand that fear is a normal response.   If you reframe the fear and treatempower them with the confidence to grow.  Then and only then will they be able to fly with the confidence of an eagle!  Help empower people you love to change the energy around them

! 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  Who needs my support to take that first step out of their comfortable nest?
  2. How can I help them to understand their fear is a normal feeling.
  3. Where can I show them love and confidence instead?
  4. Do you fly with the eagles or walk around with the chickens? 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to fly with success in all my adventures.  I intend to soar with my ideals and ideas.  I intend to have the courage of a fearless eagle.

 

If you think you can or

if you think you can’t,

You’re right.

(Henry Ford)

 

Dance and take a chance on life!

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

 If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

 

What Tribe do you Belong to?

 A 30 year old man died last night by his own hand.  It doesn’t matter how he chose to commit suicide.    He lived only for his drugs and partying.  Did he discover that his friends made through drugs and alcohol were shallow friendships?  We will never know.  He had no sense of purpose for the last decade of his life.  He had no true sense of belonging. 

 

Self actualize!

Self actualize!

A sense of belonging is a human fundamental emotional need.  We all have a need to feel needed by someone else, even if it is one single person.  That person validates us and makes us feel special.  We can then go forward with living a life on purpose. 

 

 

 

I am sad that this young man choose this route.  I have worked extensively with teens who did not complete suicide.  In all cases but one we were able to give them a sense of belonging to the tribe or to greater community.  But you see it ultimately is not up to any one of us to establish that sense of belonging for others.  They have to choose to belong to the tribe themselves.  They have to feel needed.

 

I am sad for this young man’s family whom I personally know.  They will live the rest of their lives questioning where they went wrong.  They didn’t do anything wrong.  It was his choice.  At any moment he could have chosen a different path, but he never took the multitude of opportunities that came his way. 

 

Love life!

Love life!

Frankly, I get angry at people who complete suicide.  They truly are the ultimate in being selfish.  They are not up to the challenge of grabbing onto the roller coaster ride of life.  They leave behind a legacy of guilt and tears in the people they supposedly love.  I have heard far too often from friends and family of suiciders.  Years later, the ones left behind feel guilty at not having done something. 

 

 

 

Hear this message loud and clear.  There is nothing you could have done.  It is a personal choice to opt out of life.  They have chosen to be the walking dead to begin with.  They have not truly been alive for some time.  That totally is their choice. Their choice is a permanent fix to a temporary problem.  The person who opts out of life by suicide usually does not want help.  The help is everywhere today.  They are too selfish to get it.  They fear more than they love life or love themselves. 

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  What tribes to do you belong to?
  2. What purpose do you have for living your life?
  3. How do you give to your community?
  4. What are at least four things you want to accomplish yet?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to be grateful for living a life on purpose.

4 Ways to Face Your Fear Drag-ons

Fear is a drag-on our emotions.  Fear holds us back from achieving our true potential in life.  There are really only two emotions in this world:  fear and love.  They are at opposite poles and all other emotions fall between the fear or negative emotion and love, the positive emotion.

 

 

Sleeping Drag-on

Sleeping Drag-on

 

 

Who knows what will trigger our fear?  Sometimes these fears are huge drag-ons.  Little tiny things will trigger them to come our way.  Frequently we give our startled response and act in anger.  Is it really anger you are feeling or do you fear something that has become your drag-on?  Is it really pain you are feeling or has your sleeping drag-on awakened?

 

 

 

 

 You see, people who truly love us, support us emotionally. What happens in our lives truly matters to them. They want our happiness and our joy. They are part of our Love Journey. When we leave them we feel positive, upbeat and good about ourselves.  They help give us a sense of belonging.  They help us to look in the mirror of life and reaffirm that we are just fine the way we are.  That’s what love does.

 

 

Friends as Drag-ons

Friends as Drag-ons

Other times they appear as friendly drag-ons.  Those are people we thought were friends, only they bring out these negative feelings in us.  They leave us feeling drained, uninspired and negative.  I call them our soul-sucking drag-ons.  They certainly don’t love us. 

They are doing everything they can to steal our personal power by showering us with their negative energy.

 

 

 

4 Ways to Slay Your Drag-ons

 

Slay your drag-ons  So I’m suggesting you start slaying your Fear drag-ons. Start with the one that haunts you the most.  That drag-on is impacting your life the most, so let’s get rid of it first.   First drag it up to your conscious level.  Second ask yourself what is the worst possible thing that can happen if you deal with it head on?  Third, rehearse in your mind how you want the scene the go the next time you have to face that particular drag-on.  Fourth, how do you want to feel once you are finished slaying your worst drag-on?  I hope you will say, “I Love myself for facing my fear”.  It’s the only way you will ever find Your Sacred Safe Place in your heart and your soul.

 

 

 

Cross Rainbow Bridge

 

Cross that bridge to loving yourself.  You see, if you love yourself enough, you will choose to slay your drag-ons.  Your drag-on feelings are holding you back from reaching your true potential in life.  You did not come here to fear life.  You came here to love yourself enough to embrace life.  When you face your drag-ons by crossing that bridge, you will have abundant love and beauty surrounding you wherever you go.  So what is holding you back from loving the most important person on the planet … YOU!

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1. What is your main fear?
  2. What is the virgin moment of when that fear started?
  3. What is the worst possible thing to happen to you if you confront that fear?
  4. How will you feel if that fear no longer rules your personal world?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to face my fears.  I am the drag-on slayer.  I intend to walk my world in love.  I love me!

 

 

Man has a pretty static picture of the world,

Accidentally or forcibly imprinted upon him

By means of chains of conditioned associations.

Man believes him imprint board is reality.

(Timothy Leary)

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

 

  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

 

Bullies are Sociopaths & Psychopaths

Bullies in the Hood?  Bullies in your office?  Bullies in your family? Take back your Sacred Space.  Take back your Neighborhood! Use your mind-body-spirit connection to rid your world of these toxic bugs.  They are like pesky mosquitoes everywhere.  Visualize them as being a pesky mosquito and “slap” them mentally, emotionally and spiritually.    

 

 

I have worked with some pretty mean bullies in my lifetime.  The psychological literature shows that bullies are frequently our bosses.  They are found in every family.  They are found in every political party.  They are found in every neighborhood.  They are found in every club and organization.

 

 

Let me explain what their behavior means in psychological terms.  According to the DSMIV, they are officially one of two names either sociopaths or psychopaths.  They exhibit psychopathological behavior.  Yes, I know, you thought those were the people in jail who committed some unspeakable crime.  They too are sociopaths who have committed a crime they got caught for.  There are also sociopaths who frequently are white color workers or like I said, they live and breathe everywhere.  They clearly exhibit the same types of emotional and behavioral patterns that have put the others behind bars.  Like prisoners, they are prisoners within their own skin because of their choices. Some we call psychic vampires or soul vampires.  We totally feel drained when we are in their presence.  I have written about that earlier in this blog.

 

 

 

Nobody has every liked them since they were kids.  They are totally insecure.  Let me explain.  All of us want attention when we are children.  If we can’t get it in a positive way, then we become poorly behaved and get that attention in a negative way.  Take a look at any adorable 2 year old.  If they don’t get loving attention, they start screaming just so that someone will pay attention to them and their emotions.  So a bully is self-created by their own choice of how to act!

 

 

When it goes on for a long time, they learn the only way they can get attention from their peers is through bullying and intimidation.  They use manipulation to get others to bend to their will.  They use this energy of fear tactics because it is the only way they have any personal power.  The other way they get power is to get into a position of authority.  Then what absolute horrors they bring to all our lives. 

 

 

So what can we do about it?  One strategy I have already told you about.  Visualize and don’t run away.  Face them head on.  You see bullies do not like to be confronted.  They don’t know what to do if someone isn’t screaming or shouting back.  If you remain calm, cool and collected, they are totally unsure of themselves.  They feed off fear energy. 

 

 

Conversely, another more powerful strategy  is you can be an angel, but a firm angel.  First do the visualization so that you are changing the energy around you.  You’ll be giggling inside at least.  Then surround yourself with a golden colored cocoon so their negative energy won’t hurt you.  Next send them loving energy.  Wrap them tightly in warm soothing hugs and send them love energy.  That’s truly what they crave.  But you see, they do not love themselves.  If a person does not love themselves, they are incapable of ever loving anyone else.  We have to surround them in a multisensory way with love energy.  If you are an angel of light, you will do what you can to help this impoverished soul.  They are in such emotional pain. 

 

 

Personally, I feel sorry for the choices they have made for themselves during their life’s journey.  At any moment in time, these bullies can choose to change their own energy.  They too can choose to begin loving themselves.  This in turn will help them to loving others in a healthy way.  Be an angel.  Help them to change their energy if you are a healer and they want to change their energy.  These bullies are truly in their own personal self-created hell. 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to teach others to change their attitudes when they are ready to love themselves.

 

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

 [M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist wrote his book, People of the Lie, explaining this in more depth.]