Magical Mother’s Day Angels!

Celebrate the feminine side of you!  Each of us needs a safe person to talk to.  That’s the Mother archetype.  Mothering is something we all do, whether we are men or women.  We provide a Sacred Safe Place to others where they can come and whisper or weep about their pain.  Sometimes they come and we are just silent with them.  That’s okay for that is what they need at that moment in time. 

 

I want to thank each and every one of you for allowing your feminine side to come through to the people you treasure in your life.  We all have a very basic need of belonging to a tribe. We all NEED just one person who truly does care about our well being and who does not judge us.  You allow us to just be our true selves. You accept that it’s okay for “I AM me”.   

Friends are Pot of Gold

Friends are Pot of Gold

 

 I know those of you who visit my blog are just those kinds of people. I’m grateful you are on this earth and in our world.  Blessings to you all!  May you ride a magic carpet, sliding down rainbows to find the pot of gold at the bottom.  That true pot of gold is someone who accepts us for who we truly are!

 

A special Happy Mother’s Day to Jo who is grandmother to many she has adopted and my non judgmental mother!   Hooray Mum, this is your special day …  I’m so proud of you in your empowerment of yourself!  You are a role model for all of us who are blessed to know you. 

 

 

A mother understands what a child does not say.

 

Happy Mother’s Dance with angels and fairies in the Moonlight!

Wee!  Slide down a rainbow on your magic carpet!

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.

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4 Lessons Live Life with No Regrets

Honor yourself. Honor your intuition. Honor your feelings. When you choose to live life honoring your feelings, you choose to live life with no regrets. 

 

Many years ago, I lived a life full of hidden emotions.  I didn’t want anyone to know how I felt and learned to adopt a poker face so that no one could read my emotions.  I was the person everyone else turned to with their raw emotions and their problems.  I was unable to share my own.  After all, I was supposed to be the strong one for everyone else.  How wrong I was.  I did not honor my own feelings! 

 

As a result of keeping myself tightly bound up in my cocoon of emotional protection, neither the bad feelings nor the good feelings could leak out into the outer world.  What lessons I had to learn!  Along came an angel friend who gently guided me to the loving world of Leo Buscaglia when she gave me his book Love.  There were several lessons for me to learn.  You see, others perceive me as striding forward confidently throughout life.  Inside myself, I was a quivering mass of jello fears, shaking that someone might discover the truth of who I truly was.  As a result I lived with plenty of regrets at not telling people in person how I honestly felt about them.  Oh I wanted to, but I was so afraid of their reaction.  I held back and stayed in my fear cocoon.

 

So here are the four main lessons I learned from Leo Buscaglia that may helped me on my journey. 

 

4 Lessons to Live a Loving Life

 

  1. Love myself enough to honor my feelings.
  2. When I care for someone, to tell them I care for them. 
  3. When I need a reassuring hug, hug someone else so we both feel great!
  4. Tell everyone you care about specifically what they mean to your world.

 

The last one is kinda like the warm fuzzies.  If someone has done something that gives me the warm fuzzies, I tell them I appreciate them for doing ___.  They feel good.  I feel good.  Win-win energy to go around!  My wise father used to say “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”  Fortunately I learned those lessons well decades ago.  When people have left the earth to become angels, I know in my heart I have told them exactly what they have meant to me.  I live life with no regrets.

 

That’s how you feed your own energy and that’s how you help to feed others positive energy.  We all need to be needed.  We all need to be appreciated.  We all need to hear that others are grateful for something we have done for them.  Therefore we need to let others know when we are grateful.  Allow yourself to experience the joy in life you so richly deserve.  You see this grows your happiness and joy bubble of bliss!  So be an angel to someone in your world every day!

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  Did you smile at yourself in the mirror today?
  2. Tell yourself at least four ways you already experience joy and happiness in your life.
  3. Who needs to hear that you love and appreciate them?
  4. Who in your world needs a hug?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to honor my feelings.  I intend to live a life with no regrets.

 

To love others, you must first love yourself ….

You can only give to others

what you have given to yourself.

(Leo Buscaglia)

 

Take a chance on Life’s Dance!

Live a life with No regrets!

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

Fear & Eagle Egg Parenting

Eagles soar

Eagles soar

Soar with the eagles or scratch around with the chickens on the ground.  It’s scary flying into the unknown and new beginnings.  It could be a new job, a new house, a new career or a new location.  It’s always scary to step into the unknown.  That is a normal human reaction to anything new.  While we may be thrilled and exhilarated, underneath is the drumbeat of fear.  We all feel this fundamental fear.    We are stepping out of the Sacred Safe Place we have created. 

 

 

 

New Beginning

New Beginning

My friend is starting out on a new business venture.  The seeds or egg of this idea was hatched some months ago.  She has to leave all she has known all her life behind and travel thousands of miles to begin a totally new life for her.  She is terrified.  Hooray!  That is perfectly normal!  Here is the note that I wrote to her.  

 

 

  

 

Leaders Food

Leaders Food

We are so proud of how far you have chosen to come to date.  I feel like we are eagle parents hatching an egg with you!  We are fussing more and worrying more about you than we have done over any of our other “kids”.  But then you see, that is love.  We love you enough to want to see you emerge from that egg, strengthen you wings and fly on your own when you are ready.  Until that time, like great bird parents, you will be under our eagle eye.  

 

 

 

Come to the edge.

We can’t, we are afraid.

Come to the edge.

We can’t, we will fall.

And they came to the edge.

And he pushed them.

And they flew.

(Guillaume Apollinaire)

 

Sometimes as family, friends, extended family or partners we truly have to understand that fear is a normal response.   If you reframe the fear and treatempower them with the confidence to grow.  Then and only then will they be able to fly with the confidence of an eagle!  Help empower people you love to change the energy around them

! 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  Who needs my support to take that first step out of their comfortable nest?
  2. How can I help them to understand their fear is a normal feeling.
  3. Where can I show them love and confidence instead?
  4. Do you fly with the eagles or walk around with the chickens? 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to fly with success in all my adventures.  I intend to soar with my ideals and ideas.  I intend to have the courage of a fearless eagle.

 

If you think you can or

if you think you can’t,

You’re right.

(Henry Ford)

 

Dance and take a chance on life!

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

 If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

 

What Tribe do you Belong to?

 A 30 year old man died last night by his own hand.  It doesn’t matter how he chose to commit suicide.    He lived only for his drugs and partying.  Did he discover that his friends made through drugs and alcohol were shallow friendships?  We will never know.  He had no sense of purpose for the last decade of his life.  He had no true sense of belonging. 

 

Self actualize!

Self actualize!

A sense of belonging is a human fundamental emotional need.  We all have a need to feel needed by someone else, even if it is one single person.  That person validates us and makes us feel special.  We can then go forward with living a life on purpose. 

 

 

 

I am sad that this young man choose this route.  I have worked extensively with teens who did not complete suicide.  In all cases but one we were able to give them a sense of belonging to the tribe or to greater community.  But you see it ultimately is not up to any one of us to establish that sense of belonging for others.  They have to choose to belong to the tribe themselves.  They have to feel needed.

 

I am sad for this young man’s family whom I personally know.  They will live the rest of their lives questioning where they went wrong.  They didn’t do anything wrong.  It was his choice.  At any moment he could have chosen a different path, but he never took the multitude of opportunities that came his way. 

 

Love life!

Love life!

Frankly, I get angry at people who complete suicide.  They truly are the ultimate in being selfish.  They are not up to the challenge of grabbing onto the roller coaster ride of life.  They leave behind a legacy of guilt and tears in the people they supposedly love.  I have heard far too often from friends and family of suiciders.  Years later, the ones left behind feel guilty at not having done something. 

 

 

 

Hear this message loud and clear.  There is nothing you could have done.  It is a personal choice to opt out of life.  They have chosen to be the walking dead to begin with.  They have not truly been alive for some time.  That totally is their choice. Their choice is a permanent fix to a temporary problem.  The person who opts out of life by suicide usually does not want help.  The help is everywhere today.  They are too selfish to get it.  They fear more than they love life or love themselves. 

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  What tribes to do you belong to?
  2. What purpose do you have for living your life?
  3. How do you give to your community?
  4. What are at least four things you want to accomplish yet?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to be grateful for living a life on purpose.

4 Ways to Face Your Fear Drag-ons

Fear is a drag-on our emotions.  Fear holds us back from achieving our true potential in life.  There are really only two emotions in this world:  fear and love.  They are at opposite poles and all other emotions fall between the fear or negative emotion and love, the positive emotion.

 

 

Sleeping Drag-on

Sleeping Drag-on

 

 

Who knows what will trigger our fear?  Sometimes these fears are huge drag-ons.  Little tiny things will trigger them to come our way.  Frequently we give our startled response and act in anger.  Is it really anger you are feeling or do you fear something that has become your drag-on?  Is it really pain you are feeling or has your sleeping drag-on awakened?

 

 

 

 

 You see, people who truly love us, support us emotionally. What happens in our lives truly matters to them. They want our happiness and our joy. They are part of our Love Journey. When we leave them we feel positive, upbeat and good about ourselves.  They help give us a sense of belonging.  They help us to look in the mirror of life and reaffirm that we are just fine the way we are.  That’s what love does.

 

 

Friends as Drag-ons

Friends as Drag-ons

Other times they appear as friendly drag-ons.  Those are people we thought were friends, only they bring out these negative feelings in us.  They leave us feeling drained, uninspired and negative.  I call them our soul-sucking drag-ons.  They certainly don’t love us. 

They are doing everything they can to steal our personal power by showering us with their negative energy.

 

 

 

4 Ways to Slay Your Drag-ons

 

Slay your drag-ons  So I’m suggesting you start slaying your Fear drag-ons. Start with the one that haunts you the most.  That drag-on is impacting your life the most, so let’s get rid of it first.   First drag it up to your conscious level.  Second ask yourself what is the worst possible thing that can happen if you deal with it head on?  Third, rehearse in your mind how you want the scene the go the next time you have to face that particular drag-on.  Fourth, how do you want to feel once you are finished slaying your worst drag-on?  I hope you will say, “I Love myself for facing my fear”.  It’s the only way you will ever find Your Sacred Safe Place in your heart and your soul.

 

 

 

Cross Rainbow Bridge

 

Cross that bridge to loving yourself.  You see, if you love yourself enough, you will choose to slay your drag-ons.  Your drag-on feelings are holding you back from reaching your true potential in life.  You did not come here to fear life.  You came here to love yourself enough to embrace life.  When you face your drag-ons by crossing that bridge, you will have abundant love and beauty surrounding you wherever you go.  So what is holding you back from loving the most important person on the planet … YOU!

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1. What is your main fear?
  2. What is the virgin moment of when that fear started?
  3. What is the worst possible thing to happen to you if you confront that fear?
  4. How will you feel if that fear no longer rules your personal world?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to face my fears.  I am the drag-on slayer.  I intend to walk my world in love.  I love me!

 

 

Man has a pretty static picture of the world,

Accidentally or forcibly imprinted upon him

By means of chains of conditioned associations.

Man believes him imprint board is reality.

(Timothy Leary)

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

 

  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

 

Bullies are Sociopaths & Psychopaths

Bullies in the Hood?  Bullies in your office?  Bullies in your family? Take back your Sacred Space.  Take back your Neighborhood! Use your mind-body-spirit connection to rid your world of these toxic bugs.  They are like pesky mosquitoes everywhere.  Visualize them as being a pesky mosquito and “slap” them mentally, emotionally and spiritually.    

 

 

I have worked with some pretty mean bullies in my lifetime.  The psychological literature shows that bullies are frequently our bosses.  They are found in every family.  They are found in every political party.  They are found in every neighborhood.  They are found in every club and organization.

 

 

Let me explain what their behavior means in psychological terms.  According to the DSMIV, they are officially one of two names either sociopaths or psychopaths.  They exhibit psychopathological behavior.  Yes, I know, you thought those were the people in jail who committed some unspeakable crime.  They too are sociopaths who have committed a crime they got caught for.  There are also sociopaths who frequently are white color workers or like I said, they live and breathe everywhere.  They clearly exhibit the same types of emotional and behavioral patterns that have put the others behind bars.  Like prisoners, they are prisoners within their own skin because of their choices. Some we call psychic vampires or soul vampires.  We totally feel drained when we are in their presence.  I have written about that earlier in this blog.

 

 

 

Nobody has every liked them since they were kids.  They are totally insecure.  Let me explain.  All of us want attention when we are children.  If we can’t get it in a positive way, then we become poorly behaved and get that attention in a negative way.  Take a look at any adorable 2 year old.  If they don’t get loving attention, they start screaming just so that someone will pay attention to them and their emotions.  So a bully is self-created by their own choice of how to act!

 

 

When it goes on for a long time, they learn the only way they can get attention from their peers is through bullying and intimidation.  They use manipulation to get others to bend to their will.  They use this energy of fear tactics because it is the only way they have any personal power.  The other way they get power is to get into a position of authority.  Then what absolute horrors they bring to all our lives. 

 

 

So what can we do about it?  One strategy I have already told you about.  Visualize and don’t run away.  Face them head on.  You see bullies do not like to be confronted.  They don’t know what to do if someone isn’t screaming or shouting back.  If you remain calm, cool and collected, they are totally unsure of themselves.  They feed off fear energy. 

 

 

Conversely, another more powerful strategy  is you can be an angel, but a firm angel.  First do the visualization so that you are changing the energy around you.  You’ll be giggling inside at least.  Then surround yourself with a golden colored cocoon so their negative energy won’t hurt you.  Next send them loving energy.  Wrap them tightly in warm soothing hugs and send them love energy.  That’s truly what they crave.  But you see, they do not love themselves.  If a person does not love themselves, they are incapable of ever loving anyone else.  We have to surround them in a multisensory way with love energy.  If you are an angel of light, you will do what you can to help this impoverished soul.  They are in such emotional pain. 

 

 

Personally, I feel sorry for the choices they have made for themselves during their life’s journey.  At any moment in time, these bullies can choose to change their own energy.  They too can choose to begin loving themselves.  This in turn will help them to loving others in a healthy way.  Be an angel.  Help them to change their energy if you are a healer and they want to change their energy.  These bullies are truly in their own personal self-created hell. 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to teach others to change their attitudes when they are ready to love themselves.

 

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

 [M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist wrote his book, People of the Lie, explaining this in more depth.]

Love Your Extended Family

My extended family are angels in my life.  Each one is a precious gem whom I have carefully chosen for one reason or another.  I love each one and they have helped grow that love immensely over time.  Some of these angel jewels have been in my life for decades.  Others have come in more recently.  Each one has helped my heart to grow bigger.  Each has helped my heart to vibrate stronger with the golden love they give back to me.   

 

 

I was cleaning out the debris and deleting some of the people who are on my friends list who have been inactive for over 90 days.  In other words, they no longer can access me so easily.  I thought, ah, if life were only that easy to delete some of our garbage family members.  You know what?  It is that simple!  Interestingly I heard from three of my extended family members lamenting about their bio-family yesterday.  That’s not surprising given the double water energy of the Pisces Sun and Pisces Moon.  So here’s my response to one of them whom I dearly love. 

 

 

Out of sight, out of mind, out of my life! … Delete and hit the delete button in your heart!  You see, people like your sister just are so into themselves that they don’t really give a damn about you and others.  Yet look at all the others that you care about.  Those folks sincerely return your feelings back to you full circle. The ones you choose to have part of your extended family are the ones who truly care about your well being.  They care about what happens in your world.

 

 

So not only did I delete people from blog world, but also I went in and deleted people from my “family” email whom I never hear from, either verbally or in person, or through email.  They are unworthy of my love and my attention because they are apathetic about life.  Their energy must be very low vibrationally.  They certainly no longer vibrate in my world. Excuse me, but why flog a dead horse?

 

 

I want people who choose to live and who choose to love whole heartedly in my world.  I want people in my world who choose to live their lives on purpose.  They dedicate themselves to growing and evolving. They choose to make the world a better place for all of us to be. I want people in my world who truly do contribute love to the world and who sincerely care.  I choose to surround myself with people who vibrate at a higher energy level of truly loving in their hearts.   Their actions and their deliberate communication efforts show that what I do and what happens to me, matters in their hearts.

 

 

Hence my extended family have moved into my inner circle of caring and loving.  They have become my chosen sisters and brothers . in my web of life  They are the ones I will expend my energy on.  They are the ones who bring chats of happiness and joy to my heart.  These are the people to whom I will send my golden trinkets and treasures of my memories of day-to-day life.  These are the people I choose to share the rest of my life with.  These are the people who sincerely do care whether I live, whether I breathe, whether I thrive or not. 

 

 

Now I have to tell you I was born into a deeply Christian family.  So now you know the rest of the story as well.  Nope, I have no great love for those who grace the church doors professing to be so pure in their Christian hearts.  Their actions totally belie their churchy words on Sundays.  I suspect the same holds true for every other religion, so religion has little to do with it.  Instead I view these “no-lifers” biological family members as being cancerous energy in my heart and in my soul.  So I just used the available Pluto energy and burned them out of my life and heart forever.  

 

 

So my dear extended family member, just hit the delete button in your heart.  Instead of yearning for people from the past who are not worthy of your heart energy, hit delete!  Look to the people who love you NOW and embrace their energy whole heartedly.  Your life, your love, your heart and your soul are worthy of you surrounding yourself totally with love and loving people.  They are the ones you have been looking for approval from all your life.  They are the ones who will move forward into a loving future with you.  Allow yourself to love in the NOW.   Choose those who will love you for all your soul’s being in their future.  I love you and am grateful you are in my life, my angel.

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.