Victims, Soul Vampires & Quicksand

Don’t get caught up in the emotional quicksand of people who choose to remain victims.  They are trying to suck you in and indeed are soul vampires.

A number of years ago I had a dream that clearly pointed out to me one person who had taken up huge chunks of my time.  I was trying to “rescue her” when she simply refused to do any work on herself.  The dream helped me to understand that.  It seems I’m a slow learner, as I had to go through every season of the year before I learned my lesson. 

Here it is.

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine spring day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was a wonderful woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I reached down with my hands and pulled her out.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine summer day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was a lovely lady floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I gave her the tools of branches so she could pull herself out.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine autumn day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was the same adult woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I taught her to use the tools of branches so she could pull herself out and avoid going near the quicksand.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine winter day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was the same silly woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  She was cold, she was frightened as she had not learned to go near the quicksand.  I told her to learn her lessons and walked away.  I didn’t feel I needed to go round the yearly circle rescuing  a person who truly did not want to be rescued because she refused to use her own knowingness and skills.

Reflection Questions:

1.  Are you a rescuer?

2.  Are you a victim?

3.  Why did you choose either of those roles in life?

4.  How are you going to choose to change?

Be wary of the energy you are putting out there.  Are you attracting angels to your world or soul vampires?

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Love Yourself Bridge Strategies

It’s time for you to remove your mask.  You know what I mean!  It’s the mask you put on when you leave your home.  It’s the mask you put on every time you interact with another human being.  It’s the mask you have chosen to paint over the real you.   My question is, do you remember who the real you is?

 

Here’s what I know to be true.  God doesn’t make any junk (Ethel Waters).  So the true inner you is an angel of light and beauty.  Therefore you are the star of your soul’s parade.  It’s time for you to let your own personal light shine through that mask you have been wearing. 

 

So it’s time to strip away your mask and rediscover who the true you is.  I’m asking you to re-discover yourself to become the self actualizing person you came to this earth to become.  It’s time for you to go into Your Sacred Safe Place deep inside yourself and figure out your cornerstone belief system.  How can you do that?  Look to your mind-body-spirit-emotion connection

 

Find out what brings you happiness and joy in each of those cornerstones that form the foundation of who you came to be this lifetime.  Once you cross the bridge into being your true self, you get to strip away all the chaos from your life.  You are on your true path to manifesting the real you!  Your energy will connect with others who are vibrating with the same type of energy you are vibrating with.  Angels will come into your life out of seemingly nowhere.  Ah, doesn’t that feel better? 

 

Bridge your fear.  Step out of your fear shadow.  Step into the sunlight.  Let your personal light shine.  Love yourself.  Be yourself Yes you can … strip away those masks! Cross your bridge from fear to love and become the person you intend to be!

 

Reflection Questions!  Use one to four adjectives to describe each part of your fundamental self.

  1. My body is _____
  2. My mind is _____
  3. My soul is _____
  4. My main emotion is joy and happiness.

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to live a life I deserve.  I am living a life of joy and happiness. 

 

To be nobody but yourself

in a world which is doing its best day and night

to make you everybody else,

means to fight the hardest battle

which any human being can fight, and

never stop fighting.

(e.e. cummings)

 

Dance with the ancient wise ones in the Moonlight!

Wee!  Slide down a rainbow on your magic carpet!

 Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.

Magical Mother’s Day Angels!

Celebrate the feminine side of you!  Each of us needs a safe person to talk to.  That’s the Mother archetype.  Mothering is something we all do, whether we are men or women.  We provide a Sacred Safe Place to others where they can come and whisper or weep about their pain.  Sometimes they come and we are just silent with them.  That’s okay for that is what they need at that moment in time. 

 

I want to thank each and every one of you for allowing your feminine side to come through to the people you treasure in your life.  We all have a very basic need of belonging to a tribe. We all NEED just one person who truly does care about our well being and who does not judge us.  You allow us to just be our true selves. You accept that it’s okay for “I AM me”.   

Friends are Pot of Gold

Friends are Pot of Gold

 

 I know those of you who visit my blog are just those kinds of people. I’m grateful you are on this earth and in our world.  Blessings to you all!  May you ride a magic carpet, sliding down rainbows to find the pot of gold at the bottom.  That true pot of gold is someone who accepts us for who we truly are!

 

A special Happy Mother’s Day to Jo who is grandmother to many she has adopted and my non judgmental mother!   Hooray Mum, this is your special day …  I’m so proud of you in your empowerment of yourself!  You are a role model for all of us who are blessed to know you. 

 

 

A mother understands what a child does not say.

 

Happy Mother’s Dance with angels and fairies in the Moonlight!

Wee!  Slide down a rainbow on your magic carpet!

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.

Real Earth Day

Today is the Real Earth Day with the Sun and Moon in Taurus, the “Mother-Earth” of the zodiac.  I am passionate about doing what I can to preserve the healthiness of our planet in my small piece of this sacred space.  We who live here have an obligation to demand that our governments, our industry and people who live in our town and home do what they can to make our sacred place a healthy one.  The wise ones say that what decisions we make today affect 7 generations. 

 

 

At the very least plan on planting a tree this spring!  Trees are the lungs of our planet.

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

1.      What decisions are you going to make for your Sacred Place, Mother Earth? 

2.     What are four NEW things you can make as a habit to clean up your little piece of this earth?

3.     Who can you influence to keep our sacred planet clean and healthy for your children and grandchildren?

4.     What can you do to respect your water consumption?

 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to walk lightly on Planet Earth.  I intend to influence my family and my friends in making a light carbon footprint.  I intend to plant 24 trees. I intend to make respecting the earth part of my daily spiritual journey

 

 

www.Ojolie.com has generously given us her Earth Day gift.  I’m grateful for angel Ojolie’s  artistic talents that she willingly shares with us. Please see the card at

 

http://www.ojolie.com/index.php?step=pickup&cs_id=c4ef59b6cbae3bd

 

 

Dance in the spring moonlight!

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com

4 Lessons Live Life with No Regrets

Honor yourself. Honor your intuition. Honor your feelings. When you choose to live life honoring your feelings, you choose to live life with no regrets. 

 

Many years ago, I lived a life full of hidden emotions.  I didn’t want anyone to know how I felt and learned to adopt a poker face so that no one could read my emotions.  I was the person everyone else turned to with their raw emotions and their problems.  I was unable to share my own.  After all, I was supposed to be the strong one for everyone else.  How wrong I was.  I did not honor my own feelings! 

 

As a result of keeping myself tightly bound up in my cocoon of emotional protection, neither the bad feelings nor the good feelings could leak out into the outer world.  What lessons I had to learn!  Along came an angel friend who gently guided me to the loving world of Leo Buscaglia when she gave me his book Love.  There were several lessons for me to learn.  You see, others perceive me as striding forward confidently throughout life.  Inside myself, I was a quivering mass of jello fears, shaking that someone might discover the truth of who I truly was.  As a result I lived with plenty of regrets at not telling people in person how I honestly felt about them.  Oh I wanted to, but I was so afraid of their reaction.  I held back and stayed in my fear cocoon.

 

So here are the four main lessons I learned from Leo Buscaglia that may helped me on my journey. 

 

4 Lessons to Live a Loving Life

 

  1. Love myself enough to honor my feelings.
  2. When I care for someone, to tell them I care for them. 
  3. When I need a reassuring hug, hug someone else so we both feel great!
  4. Tell everyone you care about specifically what they mean to your world.

 

The last one is kinda like the warm fuzzies.  If someone has done something that gives me the warm fuzzies, I tell them I appreciate them for doing ___.  They feel good.  I feel good.  Win-win energy to go around!  My wise father used to say “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”  Fortunately I learned those lessons well decades ago.  When people have left the earth to become angels, I know in my heart I have told them exactly what they have meant to me.  I live life with no regrets.

 

That’s how you feed your own energy and that’s how you help to feed others positive energy.  We all need to be needed.  We all need to be appreciated.  We all need to hear that others are grateful for something we have done for them.  Therefore we need to let others know when we are grateful.  Allow yourself to experience the joy in life you so richly deserve.  You see this grows your happiness and joy bubble of bliss!  So be an angel to someone in your world every day!

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  Did you smile at yourself in the mirror today?
  2. Tell yourself at least four ways you already experience joy and happiness in your life.
  3. Who needs to hear that you love and appreciate them?
  4. Who in your world needs a hug?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to honor my feelings.  I intend to live a life with no regrets.

 

To love others, you must first love yourself ….

You can only give to others

what you have given to yourself.

(Leo Buscaglia)

 

Take a chance on Life’s Dance!

Live a life with No regrets!

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

Fear & Eagle Egg Parenting

Eagles soar

Eagles soar

Soar with the eagles or scratch around with the chickens on the ground.  It’s scary flying into the unknown and new beginnings.  It could be a new job, a new house, a new career or a new location.  It’s always scary to step into the unknown.  That is a normal human reaction to anything new.  While we may be thrilled and exhilarated, underneath is the drumbeat of fear.  We all feel this fundamental fear.    We are stepping out of the Sacred Safe Place we have created. 

 

 

 

New Beginning

New Beginning

My friend is starting out on a new business venture.  The seeds or egg of this idea was hatched some months ago.  She has to leave all she has known all her life behind and travel thousands of miles to begin a totally new life for her.  She is terrified.  Hooray!  That is perfectly normal!  Here is the note that I wrote to her.  

 

 

  

 

Leaders Food

Leaders Food

We are so proud of how far you have chosen to come to date.  I feel like we are eagle parents hatching an egg with you!  We are fussing more and worrying more about you than we have done over any of our other “kids”.  But then you see, that is love.  We love you enough to want to see you emerge from that egg, strengthen you wings and fly on your own when you are ready.  Until that time, like great bird parents, you will be under our eagle eye.  

 

 

 

Come to the edge.

We can’t, we are afraid.

Come to the edge.

We can’t, we will fall.

And they came to the edge.

And he pushed them.

And they flew.

(Guillaume Apollinaire)

 

Sometimes as family, friends, extended family or partners we truly have to understand that fear is a normal response.   If you reframe the fear and treatempower them with the confidence to grow.  Then and only then will they be able to fly with the confidence of an eagle!  Help empower people you love to change the energy around them

! 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  Who needs my support to take that first step out of their comfortable nest?
  2. How can I help them to understand their fear is a normal feeling.
  3. Where can I show them love and confidence instead?
  4. Do you fly with the eagles or walk around with the chickens? 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to fly with success in all my adventures.  I intend to soar with my ideals and ideas.  I intend to have the courage of a fearless eagle.

 

If you think you can or

if you think you can’t,

You’re right.

(Henry Ford)

 

Dance and take a chance on life!

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

 If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

 

What Tribe do you Belong to?

 A 30 year old man died last night by his own hand.  It doesn’t matter how he chose to commit suicide.    He lived only for his drugs and partying.  Did he discover that his friends made through drugs and alcohol were shallow friendships?  We will never know.  He had no sense of purpose for the last decade of his life.  He had no true sense of belonging. 

 

Self actualize!

Self actualize!

A sense of belonging is a human fundamental emotional need.  We all have a need to feel needed by someone else, even if it is one single person.  That person validates us and makes us feel special.  We can then go forward with living a life on purpose. 

 

 

 

I am sad that this young man choose this route.  I have worked extensively with teens who did not complete suicide.  In all cases but one we were able to give them a sense of belonging to the tribe or to greater community.  But you see it ultimately is not up to any one of us to establish that sense of belonging for others.  They have to choose to belong to the tribe themselves.  They have to feel needed.

 

I am sad for this young man’s family whom I personally know.  They will live the rest of their lives questioning where they went wrong.  They didn’t do anything wrong.  It was his choice.  At any moment he could have chosen a different path, but he never took the multitude of opportunities that came his way. 

 

Love life!

Love life!

Frankly, I get angry at people who complete suicide.  They truly are the ultimate in being selfish.  They are not up to the challenge of grabbing onto the roller coaster ride of life.  They leave behind a legacy of guilt and tears in the people they supposedly love.  I have heard far too often from friends and family of suiciders.  Years later, the ones left behind feel guilty at not having done something. 

 

 

 

Hear this message loud and clear.  There is nothing you could have done.  It is a personal choice to opt out of life.  They have chosen to be the walking dead to begin with.  They have not truly been alive for some time.  That totally is their choice. Their choice is a permanent fix to a temporary problem.  The person who opts out of life by suicide usually does not want help.  The help is everywhere today.  They are too selfish to get it.  They fear more than they love life or love themselves. 

 

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  What tribes to do you belong to?
  2. What purpose do you have for living your life?
  3. How do you give to your community?
  4. What are at least four things you want to accomplish yet?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to be grateful for living a life on purpose.