Manifest & Bake Ideal Partner Cake

What are the secret key ingredients in manifesting your ideal partner?  The four main characteristics to be successful in a love partnership are honesty, trust, reliability and great communications skills.  They must be in every relationship to make it last.  So they go into the first layer of your cake. 


Your second delicious layer should also be on the “must have list.  They include caring, commitment to you, cooperation with you, and respect for you. 


Yesterday I gave you 10 characteristics that would be icing on your cake.  If you and your partner do not have similar core values, your relationship will likely not succeed.  So choose among these additional core values to see which ones are important to you.  Are they important to your sweetheart?  These are your sweetening icing!


Let’s look at 10 more possible ingredients for your icing:

creativity                          detachment                    determination

diligence                            enthusiasm                     excellence

flexibility                         forgiveness                     friendliness        



I’ll add more of these in a later post.  But what does your cake look like?  Here’s an example!   

Mercury is retrograde and wordpress won’t let me upload the picture.  I’ll try again later!   

Perfect Partner Cake

Perfect Partner Cake

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Manifest Your Ideal Soul Mate & Friendships

It is prime time for manifesting the ideal man or the ideal woman you want as your soul mate.  Similarly, if you want close reliable friendships to manifest in your life, then you need to learn about loving yourself first!



Bake a Perfect Partner Cake! 

So who is this heavenly partner you are going to manifest?  Before you can possibly bring your ideal person into your life, you must be clear on what qualities he or she should have.  It’s like baking a cake.  What are the main ingredients?  In other words, what do you answer to the following?

a.      4 ingredients or qualities you absolutely need to have in a partner or friend

b.      4 qualities or characteristics that would be nice to have – icing on the cake!

c.      4 qualities I absolutely do NOT want – it would ruin my cake!


Here is a list of the first 10 ingredients or qualities that you might want to consider to get you started:

Assertiveness         caring          cleanliness             commitment

Compassion             confidence    consideration         cooperation

                    Courage                 courtesy



Reflection Questions! 

  1. Make a list of 10 or more people who are closest to you whom you love.
  2. Who of those people do you trust to be in your inner circle of deep friendship? Put them in the category of Friends # 1
  3. Who does not make your inner circle of loving people who support you when life has its dark moments? Put them in the mental category of Friends # 2
  4. Who are you focusing your time energy on?   Friends #1 or Friends #2
  5. Love yourself first.  How on earth can you possibly take care of others if you do not take care of you?  On a scale of 1 – 10 how well did you pamper yourself and love yourself yesterday?  If you are not at least at a 6, then start pampering yourself today!


Once you are clear with yourself as to what qualities you want, put those words into affirmations for your manifesting or vision board.  Then say them every day at the beginning of your day or just before you go to sleep.  The Law of Attraction and the Universe will bring people with these awesome characteristics into your world.  Empower yourself with your Vision Board of your ideal world.  You get to choose!


Affirmation:  My ideal partner has these qualities of ________.  He or she is in my world now.  I’m grateful to the universe for bringing my ideal partner to me.  S/he resonates with the qualities I need to bake my perfect partnership cake!



For it was not into my ear you whispered,

But into my heart.

It was not my lips you kissed,

But my soul.

(Judy Garland)



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Angel Bridge to Grief and Loss

bridge your pain

bridge your pain

Our journey through life is not always easy when we love people. Sometimes we just have to call upon the angels that surround us to help us through emotional moments that are painful. Regardless of your religious beliefs, it helps to understand that a higher power, indeed a universal power, is watching over each of us. Sometimes that higher power sends us comforters to help us on our journey. While some call them angels, I prefer to call them good friends. Understand that pets are angels too. Indeed at times, I feel my dogs are the most awesome angels. They simply love, expecting little else from us. They can be an important part of our healing journey through life.

Wings of love

Wings of love

If you need to bridge your grief or loss to get across the emotional waters of life, then I suggest you do something, create something. By acting upon the grief energy, we simply feel better. For example with the death of my favorite dog today, I begin to make a Beautiful Babe window quilt that will have pictures of her doing some of her favorite things. It will have pictures of the other dogs of our wolf tribe. In the creating of this quilt, I will journey towards my own resolving of grief. My husband will build the wooden cross for her burial site. He will gather the rocks that we will put around the area that we lovingly place her in. We will plant a tree there in the spring in her honor. By our doing something to create this memorial to our husky-collie dog, we are moving our own grieving energy forward.


Reflection Questions and Plan
1. What can you create as your living memorial using your own skills and talents?
2. Do you view that loved one as an angel watching lovingly over you?
3. Set aside time exclusively for your grief. Permit yourself to feel the sadness and then
4. Change your emotional energy. Plan to follow up with memories that make you smile. Storytell, share, laugh!
5. Which angel in your life can you call to share your journey with?


“The things that are hard to bear are sweet to remember.”
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

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Lost Love Relationship Bridge



The loss of anything we hold dear is always an emotionally difficult time in our lives.  Loving your journey through that loss can be a mystery of emotional reactions.  Our sanitized world does not like our grief.  So we learn to internalize it and distance ourselves from the difficult feelings.  We have closed caskets so we don’t have to look upon the face of death.  We have funeral services broadcast over the internet so we don’t have to experience all that emotion.  We can view from a distance, but not get emotionally entangled in the feelings other people distastefully exhibit.  Yet, what we don’t realize is that by burying those emotions, by tunneling underground with those emotions, they will one day surface as bubbles of grief.  Then we are forced to deal with them.  The ghost of grief!   No, it’s better to deal with the loss or the grief-fear face on.



Native Americans, among many cultures, have it right according to grief and loss counseling and theory.  My native friends permit themselves to actively grieve.  In my part of the world, it is not uncommon for the entire community to shut down to honor the time of passing to another world or realm of consciousness. 



I have been grieving now for 4 months in anticipation of having to put my beloved grandmother dog to sleep.  She is not in any pain, but it is difficult for her to move forward, since her hind quarters don’t function well for her anymore.  It is fitting that with the onset of winter, she is choosing this time to depart from this world.  She has been the alpha female of my “wolf tribe” of dogs for several years.  Of all the dogs I have had in my long lifetime, she is the one I love the most. 


So how can I bridge my grief and loss with my love?  I’m a visual learner.  It helps me to see a picture of a bridge and to raise my consciousness as to what is truly happening here.  Spiritbird sent me this picture to help me love my grief journey.


This picture reminds me that the path across that bridge is pretty direct.  There is no getting lost.  The map of her journey is straightforward.  Yes, my world can continue to be colored gray or dismal if that is where I choose to focus my emotional energy.  Our emotions are represented by water in astrology and in dream analysis.  There will be ripples of emotion along the way.  But the emotion can also be soothing and calming to my soul’s journey if that is what I choose to focus on. 


But look more closely at the picture!  While the bridge to death is travelling overhead, underneath is a circle of light.  That light can be the focus of all the good feelings and events about my loss.  I simply have to reframe when I spiral down emotionally.  I can stop my downward spiral of emotions by recalling moments of joy I have experienced with the one I have lost.  Then I can recall the time we shared travelling together as a happy time instead of focusing on my pain, my loneliness and my fears.  Walk the journey of the spiral of your life into the light of consciousness.  You can change your direction of your energy.  You are the mistress of master of your own world!  Empower yourself!




Reflection Questions

1.      Why have you chosen to remain on a downward spiral of grief?

2.      Why do you continue to listen to those forlorn songs that make you sad?

3.      What are 4 positive memories you have about this person or animal?

4.      What is the most memorable story that you have that makes you positively belly laugh?

5.      Who else can you laugh with?  Who do you feel contented with? 

6.      Why have you chosen not to call that person?  Spiral out and enjoy life again!



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4 Secrets to Alternative Healing Therapy

Many people have heard of the stages of grief and loss.  What they may not know is that step-by-step process happens when we lose anything we value in our lives.  Furthermore we may wander back to a previous stage for a time. It’s okay for you to feel sad or depressed at your loss.  It’s okay for you to cry.  At some point you come to the acceptance stage and are ready to begin your healing journey.  Here are some alternatives to help you to heal yourself more quickly.



1.       laughter – It’s impossible to have negative energy and positive energy at the same time.  When you increase the positive energy around you, it dilutes the negative energy.  Fill your world with positive energy!


2.     joy – moments even briefly throughout your day help begin to dilute your dwelling in the shadow world of pain.


3.     hugs – when we touch someone, or they touch us, we jointly share the other person’s energy.  It makes us feel better having shared our body energy with another.  It is comforting.  If you feel uncomfortable hugging a person, then hug a pet!


4.     listening ear of a trusted friend in your inner circle.  Once again it is the sharing of your feelings in one way or another that helps to dilute your pain.


Losing a loved one is never easy, no matter how long ago it was.  We will still have those bubbles of grief bubbling up at a smell, a song, a word, or a gesture that reminds us of the person we have lost.  Reframe and think of that person or pet as one of your personal angels watching over you.  I believe that my father is one of those angels in heaven looking over my shoulder and gently guiding me!


The universe sends the rain to the earth to help promote vibrant growth.  The rain washes away the dirt and muck or air pollution that has accumulated since the last rain.  Similarly, our tears help to wash away our dirt full of fears, loneliness and negative thoughts.  The tears help to change our energy. So welcome your personal liquid as part of your healing journey!  The Creator gave us the tools when we look to the natural world as part of our secret map to healing ourselves!


Reflection Questions

1.       laughter – what makes you belly laugh?  What brings a fleeting smile to your face?  What makes you grin from ear to ear?

2.     joy – who and what brings you joy?  When you are ready, just call them!

3.     hugs – who do you feel comfortable exchanging body energy with?

4.     listening – who do you trust the most to be able to tell your pain to?



For additional information on the Grief and Loss process, please read Kubler-Ross, E (1973) On Death and Dying, Routledge.  I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit

5 CHART Secrets to Ideal Man or Woman Relationship

We all want to chart our way to the ideal relationship with a partner.  Whether you are looking for the ideal man or the ideal woman in a relationship, there is a road map or chart to growing that relationship.  The same holds true for growing a fabulous friendship!



First you find someone worthy of you and then apply the CHART acronym and principles below.  If you don’t have any of these five fundamental foundation keys, your relationship will wither and die.  When one practices, the spiritual principles of the law of attraction, one manifests a partner whose energy mirrors your own.  In my experience in counseling as well as growing my own marriage, I have found these secret keys to make a relationship not only thrive, but also come alive!



C ommunication.  Talk about the little things as well as the big things!

H onesty.  The ability to trust your partner enough to be 100% honest

A ttitude of a cup half full.  In other words, a positive reframing attitude.

R espect for each others strengths and weaknesses.  We all have both. 

T rust.  If you take the “t” off you get rust and then you have dust!


Recently a woman married for 10 years with 3 kids told me she was ready to throw in the towel and end her marriage.  To all outward appearances, she has it all with a successful husband, a nice home and luxury of being a stay-at-home mother.  Now I happen to know this successful workaholic husband adores his wife and kids.  So what was missing?  The only element from the CHART was communication.  Hubby was too busy to listen to what was important to his wife and acknowledge her emotional needs.  She needed to be heard.  Communication has two elements to it.  One of these is to be heard and the other is to speak.  Both pieces have to be in place before you have communication and both man and woman have to have their say as well as their hearing. 




Reflection Questions Love Quiz On a scale of 1-10 rate yourself.  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.

  1. communication – how well do I listen? 
  2. communication –  Do I feel like I am heard by my partner?
  3. honesty – how much can you honestly tell to your honey?
  4. attitude – how frequently do you show that you are contented to be with your main squeeze?  Are you positive or negative?
  5. respect – strengths, gifts and talents – do you support these in your partner?
  6. respect – weaknesses – do you make allowances for these? 
  7. trust – how well can you trust the person you love?  What percentage of the time?

If you scored 5 or less on any one of these areas, you have some major work to do on your relationship.  The higher you score the better quality relationship you have.  A note of caution to all of you is that a relationship has to be constantly watered with CHART elements or it withers and blows away in the dust!  CHART holds true for quality friendships as well.



May the hinges of love never rust

nor the wings of friendship lose a feather

(Jack Frost, 2008)


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5 Secrets to Loving Yourself

Self talk, the little voice in your head, the tape that runs over and over; these are all powerful words to describe how you feel about yourself.  If your self esteem and self-talk tends to be filled with put downs and negative affirmations of the essence of you, then how can you ever love yourself?  If you do not love yourself, how can you ever expect anyone else to love you?  Love yourself first!  Love yourself enough.  Empower yourself and you do the work.  The Universal Laws of Attraction suggest that you get and receive as much love as you give out. 




A person who is very dear to me has done irreparable harm to her soul, her emotions, her mind and her body.  She does not love herself.  Her self talk tells her she is not loveable.  She has chosen to ignore her emotions and deal with her fears.  As a result she is a severe anorexic and now also has a severe alcoholic problem.  What could she have chosen to do differently?  Here are 5 Secret Keys that at any point in time she easily could have empowered herself with.



1.  Change your thoughts. What are you feeding your mind?  Have a visual of a stop sign.  When you begin calling yourself down, immediately stop your little voice and replace it with all the wonderful things that you are.

2.  Change your energy.  Garbage in, garbage out.  What are you feeding your body?  If your are feeding it garbage also known as junk food, then how can you expect to feel good about yourself?  Feed your body with healthy foods such as fruits and veggies. 

3.  Change your behavior 1.  What are you feeding your soul? Get an elastic band or something elastic and put it on your wrist.  When you catch yourself and stop yourself from saying something negative about yourself or others, transfer it to your other wrist.  Within one week of bringing this behavior to your conscious attention, you will likely be using more positive self talk.

4.  Change your behavior 2.  What are you feeding your emotions? Confront your fears.  What is the worst possible thing that can happen to you if you do that?  You will love yourself and be empowered with higher self esteem.

5.  Random Acts of Kindness.  Be an angel!  Choose to do something for someone else, preferably a stranger.  The research shows that when we do this we feel better about ourselves.  Keep it a delicious secret that you can hug to yourself!



Reflection Questions

  1. What are 4 things I say in my head when I get upset with myself? How can I consciously change that self talk habit?
  2. What are 4 things I can do to pamper myself so that I feel good today?
  3. One a scale of 1-10 how well do I love myself?  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.
  4. What are 4 ways in which I can easily perform an angel act or Random Act of Kindness?

Take a chance performing Life’s dance

Love yourself first!


Instead of looking for love, give it;

constantly renew it in yourself and

you will always feel its presence within you.

It will always be there smiling at you,

gazing on you kindly.

(Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov)


I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit