4 Ways to Tell New NOW Stories

Is there a secret to moving your life forward in a more positive direction?  Do you choose to tell New Now life stories?  Are you still telling old stories? People who stay mired in the past tell old stories, five year old stories, ten year old stories, twenty year old stories.  Nonetheless, they are mired in the past.  They do not realize they are new people every day.  There is new energy around them literally every day.   Our bodies totally regenerate every 7 years.  However the Moon shifts every two days bringing us new emotional energy every two days.   Please confine yourself to telling two day old stories!  Then at least you are synchronized with your own personal emotional shifts

 

It boggles my mind to find that so many people live in the achievements of their past.  That tells me they do not feel successful in moving forward with today. Instead they remained bogged down or mired in the muck of yesterday’s story.  Hello … that’s old news for your life.   How about the glorious achievements of today?  Every day your life should be filled with New NOW stories that you can share with others.  The Law of Energy Attraction and quantum physics tells us that what we focus on is what we manifest for our lives.  If you are focused on yesterday’s story, you will never move forward with today’s story or your life story for tomorrow. 

 

Yah but how do you change yourself to do this?  Here are 4 strategies to begin telling your today’s stories. 

 

  1. Examine your day and find a humorous story about your actions.
  2. Find something that touched you emotionally today.
  3. Reframe your day looking for something positive that happened to you.
  4. Decide you have angels in your everyday life.  Who was your angel today?

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1. Are you telling New NOW stories for your life?
  2. Is your energy focused on the positive experiences of your life? 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to focus on telling today’s positive Life Story.

 

“If you think you have a problem,

accept that your belief systems (thoughts),
are giving you trouble, not the world.”

(Larry Crane)

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

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4 Lessons Live Life with No Regrets

Honor yourself. Honor your intuition. Honor your feelings. When you choose to live life honoring your feelings, you choose to live life with no regrets. 

 

Many years ago, I lived a life full of hidden emotions.  I didn’t want anyone to know how I felt and learned to adopt a poker face so that no one could read my emotions.  I was the person everyone else turned to with their raw emotions and their problems.  I was unable to share my own.  After all, I was supposed to be the strong one for everyone else.  How wrong I was.  I did not honor my own feelings! 

 

As a result of keeping myself tightly bound up in my cocoon of emotional protection, neither the bad feelings nor the good feelings could leak out into the outer world.  What lessons I had to learn!  Along came an angel friend who gently guided me to the loving world of Leo Buscaglia when she gave me his book Love.  There were several lessons for me to learn.  You see, others perceive me as striding forward confidently throughout life.  Inside myself, I was a quivering mass of jello fears, shaking that someone might discover the truth of who I truly was.  As a result I lived with plenty of regrets at not telling people in person how I honestly felt about them.  Oh I wanted to, but I was so afraid of their reaction.  I held back and stayed in my fear cocoon.

 

So here are the four main lessons I learned from Leo Buscaglia that may helped me on my journey. 

 

4 Lessons to Live a Loving Life

 

  1. Love myself enough to honor my feelings.
  2. When I care for someone, to tell them I care for them. 
  3. When I need a reassuring hug, hug someone else so we both feel great!
  4. Tell everyone you care about specifically what they mean to your world.

 

The last one is kinda like the warm fuzzies.  If someone has done something that gives me the warm fuzzies, I tell them I appreciate them for doing ___.  They feel good.  I feel good.  Win-win energy to go around!  My wise father used to say “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”  Fortunately I learned those lessons well decades ago.  When people have left the earth to become angels, I know in my heart I have told them exactly what they have meant to me.  I live life with no regrets.

 

That’s how you feed your own energy and that’s how you help to feed others positive energy.  We all need to be needed.  We all need to be appreciated.  We all need to hear that others are grateful for something we have done for them.  Therefore we need to let others know when we are grateful.  Allow yourself to experience the joy in life you so richly deserve.  You see this grows your happiness and joy bubble of bliss!  So be an angel to someone in your world every day!

 

Reflection Questions! 

  1.  Did you smile at yourself in the mirror today?
  2. Tell yourself at least four ways you already experience joy and happiness in your life.
  3. Who needs to hear that you love and appreciate them?
  4. Who in your world needs a hug?

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to honor my feelings.  I intend to live a life with no regrets.

 

To love others, you must first love yourself ….

You can only give to others

what you have given to yourself.

(Leo Buscaglia)

 

Take a chance on Life’s Dance!

Live a life with No regrets!

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.

4 Seasons of Love

There are 4 seasons to our Love and relationships.  I’m referring to loving yourself, loving your family, loving your friends and loving your partner.  I’m convinced that 4 seasons cycle holds true in many different areas of our lives.  I believe we were giving the 4 seasons as a blueprint for those cycles that we can detect in our lives.  Think about this and apply it to yourself!  This can assist in your cycle of transformation and change which those who seek continual growth go through.

 

So if I’m truly engaged and active and upbeat, there will be a time in my life when my rhythm has to be the valley where I go deep inside and am quiet.  That gives me the balance. That does not mean I have lost the thing I am passionate about.  It means I have to experience the quietness of that passion to take it to a new level. 

 

 

In the spring of the year, all seeds are bursting forth with newness and growth and vivid color.  The smell is different.  The colors are different.  All the senses are alert and alive.  Similarly, our passion for someone or something we love has to have seeds that burst forth.  During the newness or the beginnings of that love, our senses are like those of the springtime.

 

In the summer, the colors change.  They grow deeper as the flowers mature.  Much of the plants energy goes into creating these flowers and this beauty to attract the birds and the bees which help pollinate the plant.  Similarly in our relationships, we put a lot of energy into the love we have for another during the summer of that relationship.  We explore ideas together, we do things together, we spend a lot of time watering and feeding one another’s soul. 

 

In the fall the rhythm of life changes.  We no longer need the bright colors to attract birds and bees.  The fruit is developing nicely.  This is similar to love energy.  It has been pollinated and is maturing.  It will be sustained if we have nurtured it, weeded out the stuff that doesn’t work for us both and fed the relationship with good topsoil of conversations and experiences. Our relationship has ripened and matured by a level of truth, honesty, trust and understanding.

 

In the winter, we tend to be quieter in our relationship.  It’s not hibernating, but is sustained under that lovely snowy blanket of white that holds everything we hold dear together.  That snowy blanket is woven through the love fabric of emotions that continue to water our love through both good times and others.  So sometimes we get a total new dusting of snow and at other times we get slush.  So what, our blanket of love is woven tightly enough to endure.  If we are very wise, we are planning together for the next phase or cycle of our lives.  We are deepening our relationship.  While this appears to be a quiet time, in fact life is teeming underneath the white mask we present to the outer world.  This is a time of introspection and quiet rhythms of day to day normal life with our partner or with our friends.  They accept us as we are.

 

We need the quietness of winter where everything is sleeping before we can burst forth with a new spring growth!  It comes full circle once again.  Wise ones will tell you that you need to continually work at your relationship to sustain it, to make it a perennial plant.  I want to suggest you look at having 4 seasons in your love relationship!

 

Reflection Questions Love Quiz:  Examine your relationships and friendships pattern. 

  1. What do you typically do in the spring of any relationship?
  2. List 4 words to describe your actions in the summer phase of relationships.
  3. List 4 words to describe your behavior in the fall or autumn of relationships.
  4. In what season is your relationship with yourself, with your friends, with your honey?

Affirmation:  I intend to allow myself my natural cycle of relationships!

Instead of looking for love, give it;

constantly renew it in yourself and

you will always feel its presence within you.

It will always be there smiling at you,

gazing on you kindly.

(Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov)

 

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.comIf your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.astromoon.wordpress.com

10 Ways to Manifest Perfect Partner Cake

In manifesting your perfect partner, or the ideal person who fits with your body energy, you have to do the work!  No it is not a cake walk, so empower yourself!  Here are the next 10 attributes you might want to consider for the icing on your cake!  Choosing the top characteristics that fit with who you fundamental are, is critical to your long term relationship success.  The Law of Attraction and you creating your ideal energy mate to mirror your emotional vibration does work!

Gentleness             helpfulness             honesty

Honorable              humility                 idealistic

Integrity               joyful                    justice

Kindness

 

 

A friend of mine is just ending her relationship that has been seven years of hell for her.  When I asked her on a scale of one – ten to rate each of those qualities found in layer one and layer two of the relationship cake, she gave a dismal one or two rating.  Suddenly the light bulb came on.  She clearly sees now why her relationship did not last. 

 

Reflection Question Quiz or Love Calculator

 On a scale of 1-10 you do the ratings!

1 = poor        5 = average           10 = excellent

1.      Where do I stand in each quality on layer one? (4 ratings)

2.      Where does my honey stand in each quality on layer one? (4 ratings)

3.      Where do I stand in each quality on layer two? (4 ratings)

4.      Where does my sweetheart stand? (4 ratings)

 

Rate your relationship: 

80 or less       Read some tips on growing your self esteem!

80 – 95            Don’t you deserve better than average?

96 – 143         Wow!  You’ve got a silver medal winner!

144+              You have a pure gold Olympic medal angel!

 

 

“Before you try to change others,

remember how hard it is to change yourself.”

(Bill Bluestein)

 

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.astromoon.wordpress.com

5 CHART Secrets to Ideal Man or Woman Relationship

We all want to chart our way to the ideal relationship with a partner.  Whether you are looking for the ideal man or the ideal woman in a relationship, there is a road map or chart to growing that relationship.  The same holds true for growing a fabulous friendship!

 

 

First you find someone worthy of you and then apply the CHART acronym and principles below.  If you don’t have any of these five fundamental foundation keys, your relationship will wither and die.  When one practices, the spiritual principles of the law of attraction, one manifests a partner whose energy mirrors your own.  In my experience in counseling as well as growing my own marriage, I have found these secret keys to make a relationship not only thrive, but also come alive!

 

 

C ommunication.  Talk about the little things as well as the big things!

H onesty.  The ability to trust your partner enough to be 100% honest

A ttitude of a cup half full.  In other words, a positive reframing attitude.

R espect for each others strengths and weaknesses.  We all have both. 

T rust.  If you take the “t” off you get rust and then you have dust!

 

Recently a woman married for 10 years with 3 kids told me she was ready to throw in the towel and end her marriage.  To all outward appearances, she has it all with a successful husband, a nice home and luxury of being a stay-at-home mother.  Now I happen to know this successful workaholic husband adores his wife and kids.  So what was missing?  The only element from the CHART was communication.  Hubby was too busy to listen to what was important to his wife and acknowledge her emotional needs.  She needed to be heard.  Communication has two elements to it.  One of these is to be heard and the other is to speak.  Both pieces have to be in place before you have communication and both man and woman have to have their say as well as their hearing. 

 

 

 

Reflection Questions Love Quiz On a scale of 1-10 rate yourself.  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.

  1. communication – how well do I listen? 
  2. communication –  Do I feel like I am heard by my partner?
  3. honesty – how much can you honestly tell to your honey?
  4. attitude – how frequently do you show that you are contented to be with your main squeeze?  Are you positive or negative?
  5. respect – strengths, gifts and talents – do you support these in your partner?
  6. respect – weaknesses – do you make allowances for these? 
  7. trust – how well can you trust the person you love?  What percentage of the time?

If you scored 5 or less on any one of these areas, you have some major work to do on your relationship.  The higher you score the better quality relationship you have.  A note of caution to all of you is that a relationship has to be constantly watered with CHART elements or it withers and blows away in the dust!  CHART holds true for quality friendships as well.

 

 

May the hinges of love never rust

nor the wings of friendship lose a feather

(Jack Frost, 2008)

 

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

5 Secrets to Loving Yourself

Self talk, the little voice in your head, the tape that runs over and over; these are all powerful words to describe how you feel about yourself.  If your self esteem and self-talk tends to be filled with put downs and negative affirmations of the essence of you, then how can you ever love yourself?  If you do not love yourself, how can you ever expect anyone else to love you?  Love yourself first!  Love yourself enough.  Empower yourself and you do the work.  The Universal Laws of Attraction suggest that you get and receive as much love as you give out. 

 

 

 

A person who is very dear to me has done irreparable harm to her soul, her emotions, her mind and her body.  She does not love herself.  Her self talk tells her she is not loveable.  She has chosen to ignore her emotions and deal with her fears.  As a result she is a severe anorexic and now also has a severe alcoholic problem.  What could she have chosen to do differently?  Here are 5 Secret Keys that at any point in time she easily could have empowered herself with.

 

 

1.  Change your thoughts. What are you feeding your mind?  Have a visual of a stop sign.  When you begin calling yourself down, immediately stop your little voice and replace it with all the wonderful things that you are.

2.  Change your energy.  Garbage in, garbage out.  What are you feeding your body?  If your are feeding it garbage also known as junk food, then how can you expect to feel good about yourself?  Feed your body with healthy foods such as fruits and veggies. 

3.  Change your behavior 1.  What are you feeding your soul? Get an elastic band or something elastic and put it on your wrist.  When you catch yourself and stop yourself from saying something negative about yourself or others, transfer it to your other wrist.  Within one week of bringing this behavior to your conscious attention, you will likely be using more positive self talk.

4.  Change your behavior 2.  What are you feeding your emotions? Confront your fears.  What is the worst possible thing that can happen to you if you do that?  You will love yourself and be empowered with higher self esteem.

5.  Random Acts of Kindness.  Be an angel!  Choose to do something for someone else, preferably a stranger.  The research shows that when we do this we feel better about ourselves.  Keep it a delicious secret that you can hug to yourself!

 

 

Reflection Questions

  1. What are 4 things I say in my head when I get upset with myself? How can I consciously change that self talk habit?
  2. What are 4 things I can do to pamper myself so that I feel good today?
  3. One a scale of 1-10 how well do I love myself?  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.
  4. What are 4 ways in which I can easily perform an angel act or Random Act of Kindness?

Take a chance performing Life’s dance

Love yourself first!

 

Instead of looking for love, give it;

constantly renew it in yourself and

you will always feel its presence within you.

It will always be there smiling at you,

gazing on you kindly.

(Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov)

 

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca

5 Keys to Love, Happiness and Relationships

The latest brain research suggests there are  5 main keys to having high quality happiness and loving relationships.We all want love right?  So let’s dig out our love calculator and see how you do on this love quiz!  This works for dating relationships as well as for more the family guy in your permanent relationship.

 

Love Calculator Quiz:  On a scale of 1 – 10 with one being seldom and ten meaning I do it every day, rate yourself on the following 5 main keys:

 

  1. fifteen minutes of meditation a day
  2. share something with others every day
  3. I focus on positive emotions every day
  4. I do inner reflection and know I am in control of my attitude.
  5. I experience sex frequently with my partner as an physical expression of our love.

 

The Law of Attraction says that what you put out to the universe, you attract to yourself.  So how did you do?  If you scored 5 or less in any one area, you have some work to do!  It’s by raising our awareness to the conscious level that we can empower ourselves to change our attitudes and beliefs.  In other words, instead of love being a mystery, stop playing games and do the work to empower yourself!  Attract the love you want and manifest the man you want into your life. 

 

 

 

When I begin and end my day with meditation and positive affirmations, it helps me to fix my top four top life priorities uppermost in my mind.  I then am empowering myself to focus my energy on what truly is important to my soul or life essence.  Love and my relationship is my number one priority that brings me joy and happiness, I’m going to chose to spend energy every day on continuing to make that a sacred pact between my honey and I.  Suck it up princess.  This is something we women do or it simply does not get done.  We are the “social secretaries” of the household.  Therefore we have to plan the emotional agenda if we want to feel contentment in our love relationships.  Similarly, if you desire positives and loving attention from your love heart, then you have to be the role model on how that should happen in your relationship.  He is looking to your for leadership in what you emotionally feel comfortable with. 

 

 

 

 

Reflection Questions

1.      What 4 things describe what I truly want in my relationship?

2.      List 4 excellent qualities that you have, that your partner has.

3.      List 4 qualities that you really need to work on improving so you can experience more love, joy and happiness in your life.

4.      Do you start and end your day saying something positive to your honey? 

“To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy . . .

is to set our own conditions to the events of each day.

To do this is to condition circumstances

instead of being conditioned by them.”
(Ralph Waldo Emerson)

 

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.wisewomaninwoods.blog.ca