Victims, Soul Vampires & Quicksand

Don’t get caught up in the emotional quicksand of people who choose to remain victims.  They are trying to suck you in and indeed are soul vampires.

A number of years ago I had a dream that clearly pointed out to me one person who had taken up huge chunks of my time.  I was trying to “rescue her” when she simply refused to do any work on herself.  The dream helped me to understand that.  It seems I’m a slow learner, as I had to go through every season of the year before I learned my lesson. 

Here it is.

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine spring day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was a wonderful woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I reached down with my hands and pulled her out.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine summer day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was a lovely lady floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I gave her the tools of branches so she could pull herself out.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine autumn day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was the same adult woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I taught her to use the tools of branches so she could pull herself out and avoid going near the quicksand.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine winter day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was the same silly woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  She was cold, she was frightened as she had not learned to go near the quicksand.  I told her to learn her lessons and walked away.  I didn’t feel I needed to go round the yearly circle rescuing  a person who truly did not want to be rescued because she refused to use her own knowingness and skills.

Reflection Questions:

1.  Are you a rescuer?

2.  Are you a victim?

3.  Why did you choose either of those roles in life?

4.  How are you going to choose to change?

Be wary of the energy you are putting out there.  Are you attracting angels to your world or soul vampires?

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Man’s Love Survival Guide

Setting clear boundaries and saying “no” without guilt is important for growing healthy relationships.  Friendships thrive when everyone knows the rules.  This can be difficult during Libra Sun or Moon time as we are more apt to waffle and change our minds.  If you are a Libra then you are especially challenged to stick to what you truly feel is right for you.  Communication is the key.  But are you communicating clearly with yourself?

 

 

I just had to laugh at the posting on this website.    http://chanceencounters.wordpress.com/2008/10/01/women-vent-men-solve/  It points out the frustration from many men I counsel.  Often men do not get a clear message from the women they love.  Yes we women need to vent.  Perhaps you ladies might choose a trusted friend instead of your man.  Men just want to “fix it”, especially if it concerns the person they love.  One of our male friends recently said there were only five phases a man needed to survive in a women’s world.  Here they are in no special order.  They can be used in any combination.

 

Yes dear                huh?                      Okay                      

Sorry                    that’s right!

 

Now women if you want great conversation with the man in your life, then you might want to ensure that he clearly understands what you want from him.  That means establishing the boundaries and rules before you open the dialogue.  If you need to just vent, for heaven’s sake let him know that is all you are doing.  “Honey I just need to vent.  I don’t need you to fix it, but please listen.” is pretty simple to say. Don’t assume your partner knows what you need from him or her when you want to communicate something.  Set boundaries!

 

Reflection Questions

1.      Do you want clear two way communication with your partner? 

2.      On a scale of 1 – 10 how clearly can you set boundaries?

3.      Do you feel guilty when you say no but it doesn’t feel right to say yes?

4.      Name 4 people in your inner friendship circle that you can safely vent to. 

 

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.”

(Henry Winkler)

 

I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website www.moonwomenspirituality.com.  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit www.astromoon.wordpress.com