Victims, Soul Vampires & Quicksand

Don’t get caught up in the emotional quicksand of people who choose to remain victims.  They are trying to suck you in and indeed are soul vampires.

A number of years ago I had a dream that clearly pointed out to me one person who had taken up huge chunks of my time.  I was trying to “rescue her” when she simply refused to do any work on herself.  The dream helped me to understand that.  It seems I’m a slow learner, as I had to go through every season of the year before I learned my lesson. 

Here it is.

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine spring day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was a wonderful woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I reached down with my hands and pulled her out.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine summer day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was a lovely lady floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I gave her the tools of branches so she could pull herself out.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine autumn day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was the same adult woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  I taught her to use the tools of branches so she could pull herself out and avoid going near the quicksand.  I explained the quicksand was only at that one small part of the pool.  She could avoid it by going into the pool at any other spot.

 

I was walking through my favorite forest one fine winter day and heard a call for help.  I quickly walked along the animal highway until I came to a nearby pool.  On the edge of the pool there was the same silly woman floundering and yelling for help.  She was mired in the quicksand that I knew was in only one tiny part of the pond.  She was cold, she was frightened as she had not learned to go near the quicksand.  I told her to learn her lessons and walked away.  I didn’t feel I needed to go round the yearly circle rescuing  a person who truly did not want to be rescued because she refused to use her own knowingness and skills.

Reflection Questions:

1.  Are you a rescuer?

2.  Are you a victim?

3.  Why did you choose either of those roles in life?

4.  How are you going to choose to change?

Be wary of the energy you are putting out there.  Are you attracting angels to your world or soul vampires?

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Bullies are Sociopaths & Psychopaths

Bullies in the Hood?  Bullies in your office?  Bullies in your family? Take back your Sacred Space.  Take back your Neighborhood! Use your mind-body-spirit connection to rid your world of these toxic bugs.  They are like pesky mosquitoes everywhere.  Visualize them as being a pesky mosquito and “slap” them mentally, emotionally and spiritually.    

 

 

I have worked with some pretty mean bullies in my lifetime.  The psychological literature shows that bullies are frequently our bosses.  They are found in every family.  They are found in every political party.  They are found in every neighborhood.  They are found in every club and organization.

 

 

Let me explain what their behavior means in psychological terms.  According to the DSMIV, they are officially one of two names either sociopaths or psychopaths.  They exhibit psychopathological behavior.  Yes, I know, you thought those were the people in jail who committed some unspeakable crime.  They too are sociopaths who have committed a crime they got caught for.  There are also sociopaths who frequently are white color workers or like I said, they live and breathe everywhere.  They clearly exhibit the same types of emotional and behavioral patterns that have put the others behind bars.  Like prisoners, they are prisoners within their own skin because of their choices. Some we call psychic vampires or soul vampires.  We totally feel drained when we are in their presence.  I have written about that earlier in this blog.

 

 

 

Nobody has every liked them since they were kids.  They are totally insecure.  Let me explain.  All of us want attention when we are children.  If we can’t get it in a positive way, then we become poorly behaved and get that attention in a negative way.  Take a look at any adorable 2 year old.  If they don’t get loving attention, they start screaming just so that someone will pay attention to them and their emotions.  So a bully is self-created by their own choice of how to act!

 

 

When it goes on for a long time, they learn the only way they can get attention from their peers is through bullying and intimidation.  They use manipulation to get others to bend to their will.  They use this energy of fear tactics because it is the only way they have any personal power.  The other way they get power is to get into a position of authority.  Then what absolute horrors they bring to all our lives. 

 

 

So what can we do about it?  One strategy I have already told you about.  Visualize and don’t run away.  Face them head on.  You see bullies do not like to be confronted.  They don’t know what to do if someone isn’t screaming or shouting back.  If you remain calm, cool and collected, they are totally unsure of themselves.  They feed off fear energy. 

 

 

Conversely, another more powerful strategy  is you can be an angel, but a firm angel.  First do the visualization so that you are changing the energy around you.  You’ll be giggling inside at least.  Then surround yourself with a golden colored cocoon so their negative energy won’t hurt you.  Next send them loving energy.  Wrap them tightly in warm soothing hugs and send them love energy.  That’s truly what they crave.  But you see, they do not love themselves.  If a person does not love themselves, they are incapable of ever loving anyone else.  We have to surround them in a multisensory way with love energy.  If you are an angel of light, you will do what you can to help this impoverished soul.  They are in such emotional pain. 

 

 

Personally, I feel sorry for the choices they have made for themselves during their life’s journey.  At any moment in time, these bullies can choose to change their own energy.  They too can choose to begin loving themselves.  This in turn will help them to loving others in a healthy way.  Be an angel.  Help them to change their energy if you are a healer and they want to change their energy.  These bullies are truly in their own personal self-created hell. 

 

Affirmations and Intentions:  I intend to teach others to change their attitudes when they are ready to love themselves.

 

 

Let’s increase the Love and vibrant energy of the planet!

Hugs and love from the Universe.

 

 

For more information on dealing with the energy around life, love and relationships, visit my blog at  www.astromoon.wordpress.com.  If you are on a spiritual journey, you might also want to explore my website at www.moonwomenspirituality.com. 

 [M. Scott Peck, psychiatrist wrote his book, People of the Lie, explaining this in more depth.]