Your Soul Mate Vision Board

Journey alone

Journey alone

Alone?  Feeling lonely?  Many people feel crushed by love.  They have bleeding hearts and wonder how they can possibly move forward with their lives.  They rush from relationship to relationship because they are lonely.  While many will question whether they can repair their old relationship, others accept the relationship is over and that it is time to move on the next step in their journey.  Honey, accept the fact that he or she is just not that into you and start to live life again!  You owe it to your own Love IQ!




A friend of mine is in her mid 30’s.  She truly wishes to manifest a soul mate.  Her biological clock is ticking and her body is giving her a sense of urgency. I ache for her as she has tried all kinds of things from on-line dating to those 5 minute meeting mates exchanges.  However, she has not done the work on herself.   She does not love herself enough to increase her Emotional IQ.  Consequently she will continue finding men who do not match her criteria until she herself has done the healing work on herself.  In other words, you get what you currently are because that is your energy or vibration rate.  Like attracts like in the body energy world.  So if you wish to attract someone who is gentle, then you have to be gentle.  If you wish to attract someone who is honest, then you have to walk your talk and be honest yourself.  If you want to attract someone who is respectful towards you, then you have to respect yourself and others.  That’s the Law of Attraction. 



Journey with Friend

Journey with Friend

Yah but how do you do that?  Perhaps you have to walk your Love Journey alone for awhile.  Give yourself some time and space to actively work on developing your own self esteem.  The first step is work on yourself alone or with friends who are supportive.  Ditch the friends who are negative and surround yourself with those who truly want only good things for you.  The second step is be clear on what qualities you want in a soul mate.  I have done several postings on core beliefs.  The third step is get in touch with your feelings.  How would you feel if you had the ideal mate?  I don’t care if you are a man.  You need to understand how you would feel having just the ideal soul mate for you. The fourth step is to create your manifesting or vision board during the 2 weeks of the New Moon Cycle.  See for when those times are.  Read your Vision Board every day first thing in the morning and last thing at night.  Read it with intense feeling.  You will increase your own vibration rate by remaining positive.  So make sure you have positive affirmations on your manifesting board.  Say it, Believe it is true, then Act as if it is already in your life!  Connect the dots.  If you don’t follow what you think you want, with emotions and then action, it will never manifest in your life.  You owe it to yourself.  Change is in the air.  Just act on it!


Reflection Questions on Love IQ

1.       How well on a scale of 1-10 do I love myself?  How high is my own self esteem?

2.     What core beliefs or qualities do I show to others?

3.     Do I feel comfortable being alone with just my thoughts and feelings, or do I have to drown everything out with noise?

4.     What 4 strong feelings would I have if I had my ideal soul mate?



Affirmation and Intentions: 

I intend to love myself enough that my little voice in my head says positive things about me.

I intend to feel comfortable in my own skin, so that I can be alone with my thoughts and feelings.

I am honest, trustworthy and respectful to myself.

I work on my self esteem every day.  I pamper me!


Each man lives love in his limited fashion and

Does not seem to relate the resultant confusion and loneliness

To his lack of knowledge about love.

(Leo Buscaglia; Love)



I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy affects you, your love and your relationships, visit


Spirituality & Soul Vampire Strategies

With the Sun in Scorpio many people might feel emotionally overwhelmed until around November 21 when the Sun changes energy.  Since it is Hallowe’en, we need to discuss the term Soul Vampires.   I have yet to hear a better term and hopefully someone out there can suggest one.  Some people call them psychic vampires, but I don’t like that term and refuse to use it.



Each of us has encountered Soul Vampires.  They are those folks who leave you emotionally drained.  They leave your presence, you have a headache.  They leave and you are emotionally exhausted.  They leave and you feel depressed.  They are sucking your energy and feeding off your positive vibes.  Those are all indicators of a soul vampire.  We have soul vampires in our families, in our workplace, and among our friends.  Two out of three are pretty difficult to manage or control.  However you can work towards minimizing your contact with any soul vampire who wanders into your energy field. 


Use this as a tool to determine the effect a person has on you. Imagine a thermometer that shows a scale of 1 to 10.  It is important for you to understand your personal Emotional IQ.  5 is average for how you typically feel. 

1 =   I’m seriously depressed, sad, down;

5 =   I’m average, content with life and just coasting;

10 = I’m joyful, exuberant.



I truly believe that most mild to moderate depression occurs because our emotional well has run dry.  We have let too many soul vampires in.  We need to retreat and find out why we gave away our emotional power without filling up our well.  I believe the depression of sleeping helps us to do that.  It slows down the outside stimulation.  It has the effect of making us cocoon until our emotional well is refilled. 



If you are depressed or feel down after someone leaves your energy field, ask yourself the following:


1.  is there a physical reason for my having low energy?

If so, then start eating and exercising properly.  Perhaps it’s sleep you need!


2.  Is there an emotional reason for my having low energy and feeling down? If so, then deal with the issue rather than running away from it.


3.  Is there a spiritual reason for my having low energy and feeling depressed?  If so, have a chat with God and work on faith, self respect, hope and love.


4.  Is there an intellectual reason for my having low energy and feeling depressed?  If so, determine why you are choosing not to challenge yourself to learn something new or to surround yourself with smart friends.


Empower yourself!  Promise yourself that you will minimize your contact with soul vampires on your spiritual journey!


Life isn’t about how to survive the storm,

but how to dance in the rain!


I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy emotionally affects you, your love and your relationships, visit my astrology blog at

15 Steps to Real You Quiz!

Get real.  PASS a dose of Self Esteem!   Personhood, Authentic self, Self fulfillment, or Self Actualizing, they all are a rose under the name of ego and feeling good about who you are.  I don’t care what you call it.  If you do not have the confidence to step out into the world as your true self, then you have not been an authentic angel to yourself.  Who is the most important soul on this planet?  Well, we all are.  But you came to experience the real you this lifetime.  So how about getting on with what you came here to do?   Climb those steps and let your authentic angel shine through!  Empower yourself!

Empower Yourself!

Empower Yourself!



Authentic Self Quiz:  According to Maslow, here are the qualities for a person to become self actualized or real.  Each is a stepping stone for being an authentic person and giving the world the essence of your soul!  On a scale of 1-10 rate yourself.  1 = low, 5 = average 10= I’m there!

1.  reality oriented

2.  accept oneself and others for who they are

3.  spontaneous

4.  problem centered, rather than self centered

5.  detached, need privacy or alone time for reflection

6.  independent

7.  sincere appreciation of others

8.  had a mystical or spiritual experience

9.  identifies with human race as ONE whole

10. only a handful of deep intimate relationships in Circle of Friends

11.  democratic values

12.  philosophical sense of humor rather than judging others

13.  creative resources and skills

14.  resist conformity or following the crowd

15.  transcends one’s personal environment.  Understands big picture thinking


So how did you do?  If you scored at a 5 or less in any area, then perhaps you might want to do some work at improving that area for yourself.  If you scored 6 or above in all areas, then it looks like you are well on your journey to being an authentic angel to yourself and to the world.  After all, that was what you came to do in this lifetime. 




Reflection Questions

1.  Which of the 15 areas above do I need to work on?             

2.  Which of the 15 areas above will make me feel happy if I improved?

3.  If I were to choose just 4 areas to work on, what would they be?

4.  On a scale of 1-10 how well do I love myself just for today?  5 = average, 10 is top of the scale.

5.  Where can I find some “me pampering” time today?  I deserve time to work on self reflection!




I intend to be an authentic person. 

I intend to self actualize my soul essence.

l let the real me show my face to the world. 

I intend to be ME!



We are not in a position in which we have nothing to work with.

We already have capacities, talents, direction, mission, callings.

(Abraham Maslow, psychologist)



I love my journey into myself.  Do you love your journey?  If not, then do the work to empower yourself!  If you found this helpful, then visit my website  If your want information on how the daily Moon and Sun energy emotionally affects you, your love and your relationships, visit my astrology blog at